We need fathers to realize that responsibility does not end at conception. We need them to realize that what makes you a man is not the ability to have a child — it’s the courage to raise one." ~BO~
I went through recent statistics about single parents, and watched movies and reality shows which depict about the life of single moms. these products of the show biz industry applaud divorce, undermine the core family value, and presents reluctantly mothers as the only engine in the process of the upbringing of children. While I was left ... astounded with how issues that can be solved with selflessness and little sacrifice lead to divorce which I say it the biggest Personality- Miscarriage, I was equally appalled by the dismaying character of some fathers.The economic independence of females in the developed nations may help them decide to step out of a marriage which they claim abusive, or boring having no space for love anymore and so on and so forth because they know that they can carry on in their own right.
But what about in nations like our own Ethiopia where a father is the sole provider, where he is the rule and the law of the family, where a mother does not know what her spouse earns? This father treats the family member as his own subject because he knows that they don't have anywhere to go, that they're helpless. He demands apology from them for his own mistake.What about the father who does not know which grade his children are in, who spends most of his out- of- work time outside home leaving his wife with the needy children... ? or the father who has children in every town he visited?..
The Scripture says"Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it." But say it the divorce case i mentioned above or the marriage with already- separated- 2 ways, the absence of father in ones childhood has enormous impact on the child's future. He'll either avoid marriage fearing of ending up like his father or learn through failure. He will live being angry with his father for he was not taught how to handle crisis..
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as BO says in his book:A man's either trying to live up to his father's expectations or make up for his father's mistakes.
But what about in nations like our own Ethiopia where a father is the sole provider, where he is the rule and the law of the family, where a mother does not know what her spouse earns? This father treats the family member as his own subject because he knows that they don't have anywhere to go, that they're helpless. He demands apology from them for his own mistake.What about the father who does not know which grade his children are in, who spends most of his out- of- work time outside home leaving his wife with the needy children... ? or the father who has children in every town he visited?..
The Scripture says"Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it." But say it the divorce case i mentioned above or the marriage with already- separated- 2 ways, the absence of father in ones childhood has enormous impact on the child's future. He'll either avoid marriage fearing of ending up like his father or learn through failure. He will live being angry with his father for he was not taught how to handle crisis..
OR
as BO says in his book:A man's either trying to live up to his father's expectations or make up for his father's mistakes.
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